A Little Something Called Trust

I recently had a rather huge confontation with a friend of mine over some major trust issues. This happened a few days ago, but I decided to wait to write this for two reasons:
  1. I wanted to calm down and not write this while I was furious
  2. I wanted to make sure I had my package in hand, just in case he read this and decided to do something stupid. Hey some people are crazy.
The Story
My boss recently purchased a new laptop for me, for business uses. I already owned my own personal laptop, thusly leaving me with two laptops [three computers total since I have a desktop as well]. Needless to say, many of my friends asked me for my personal laptop since I was getting a new one. Even my father [the most computer shy person I know asked for it]. I told them all no. However, there was one friend who persisted: from June until August he wouldn't let the fact that I had two laptops rest. He asked repeatedly for me to trade my fairly new personal laptop for his not-so-new laptop [mine has a CD burner and he needed it].

As my personal laptop is the most personal item I own, I continually told him no. However, his asking was incesent. Finally, in late August, he either called or IMed me to tell me he was coming to Houston for two back to back weekends-- he lives in Dallas. He asked if he could pick up the laptop the first weekend and bring it back SEVEN days later [Labor Day weekend]. Tired of saying no, I finally agreed under the stipulation that I received my laptop back the following weekend. I told him that, at the time, I was using both of my laptops for a project, so it was imperative that I received my baby back during Labor Day weekend.

Well, needless to say Labor Day weekend comes, and I get either a call or an IM or a text message from him telling me because the gas prices shot up so rapidly, he wouldn't be coming to Houston Labor Day weekend-- it starts. I did find it odd however, that he managed to make it to Mississippi that very same weekend [but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt assuming he didn't drive there]. Labor Day weekend was the weekend of the 1st. However, as of the 7th I still had not received my computer.

I called him [note I made contact here] to ask him to ship my computer to me. He told me that his roommate was coming to Houston, and he would bring it or something like that.
  • Problem #1: I told him my most personal and important posession to Houston with a stranger
I told him he could call a mutal friend of ours who also lives in Dallas and ask her when she is coming to Houston next, and possibly give her my laptop to bring with her, and I gave him her number just in case he didn'tstill have it.

Needless to say, he lost the number and, from what I could tell had made no other arrangements to get my computer back to me. So on Monday the 12th, nearly two weeks after I was supposed to have my computer back, I contacted him again to ask him when he was getting my computer to me. He then tells me that his roommates girlfriend was coming to Houston this weekend and would drop my computer off at his mom's house, and I could pick it up from there.
  • Problem #s 2, and 3: If I didn't what it to come to Houston with his roommate, whom I have at least met once, why in the hell would I be okay with it coming down with his roommate's girlfriend whom I had never met before in my life?
  • "She would drop it off at his mother's house, and I could get it from there."??? What in the world?! If I was kind enough to let you borrow my most personal posession then you need to make sure I shouldn't have to go out of my way to get my stuff back from you!
I told him that was not acceptable and he would either have to:
  • Bring it back to Houston the next time he comes, pending that time period would not exceed three weeks
  • Give it to our mutual friend who could bring it to me, pending she would be coming to Houston within the next three weeks
  • Or ship it to me
So he asks me for her number again: this means he was not responsible enough to write it down the first time, and that he had not even called her the first time I mentioned this option to him.

Speaking of OPTIONS let's note how many times I give him options here. The first being the initial return on Labor Day, the next three are those bulleted directly above the previous paragraph.

After I talk to him and give him these three options [on Monday] my professional computer breaks on me. Because of the warranty that I have, I have to send my computer to Dell to have it fixed. With my professional computer in Dell's hand and my personal computer in Dallas, this leaves me virtually computerless. I call him back on Wednesday, after I realize that there is no way to avoid sending my computer to Dell, and tell him that I need him to ship my computer no later than Thursday because if he doesn't I'll be computerless, and will not be able to work on a project for work that I really need to complete.

Well, needless to say, Thursday comes and he does not send it. He tells me that I will have to wait until he gets paid next week in order to get it via FedEx. Well, that's just not good enough. It isn't an option. I have to work, and I need my computer.

This is when it gets stressful. I call him, and we play phone tag because he's in a meeting @ 8:00 p.m. I finally get a hold of him and I tell him I need it immediately, so he MUST ship it on Friday morning. Once we are on the phone he tells me that he was in a car wreck that day. I try to be sympathetic but I could really careless, because had I received my computer, had he taken care of that [at this point] what was three weeks ago, his car wreck wouldnot have been a factor. He tells me that he will send it with his roommate's girlfriend because he doesn't have the money to ship it.

Option 5:
I tell him I still do not want my most personal posession in the hands of someone I do not know from Dallas to Houston. So he should take the package to FedEx and for payment options, put pay for by recepient upon delivery, and include a blank check signed which I can deposit after he gets paid, because I shouldn't have to pay for the shipping of my own computer after I'd allowed him to use it as a favor to him.

His response to this is, "Well how am I supposed to ship it if I do not have a box and packaging?" HELLO! Go to Wal-Mart; they restock at night. Get a box and stuff it with newspaper. He has a problem with this because that would mean he'd have to go to Wal-Mart and get a box to ship it. Since he feels that I am just being unreasonable he tells me yet again that he is just going to send it to Houston with his roommate's girlfriend [yes, the chick I do not know].

I once again tell him this is not an option, and that he has to ship it. Then his childish ass goes, well you don't know the FedEx man either. WHAT AN IDIOT. I was trying to tell this story without any biast but I'm allowed. Sure I do not know the FedEx man, but I know that FedEx can and will insure my package... unlike his roomate's girlfriend.

Then he argues that if she brings it to Houston, I could have it on Friday... yes, granted I could have it on Friday pending nothing happens to it while it is in her posession, and IF something happens to it while it is in her posession, I wouldn't get it or a reiembursement for it ever because she CAN'T ENSURE MY CRAP.

This goes on and on and on for about 30 minutes. I begin yelling and screaming because he doesn't understand that he fucked up. He was irresponsible and careless with my most personal posession, and no matter what the case, or his financial situation he needs to rectify his problem in a grown up manner, whether it inconvienced him or not, and in a matter that was acceptable by me-- the favor giver and computer owner.

This arguement got so intense that I ended up throwing my phone at the wall and just crying uncontroallably. You have no idea how personal this computer is to me. I finally calmed myself enough to call him back, and reiterate that my computer is to be shipped and not sent home with a stranger. He still doesn't get it and he continues to tell me that he is going to send ti home with the girl. Unable to even stomach the sound of his voice for another 20 seconds I finally had my cell phone over to my father, and tell him that when he gets off of the phone the understanding needs to be that my computer will be shipped and insured for a value of $1200 USD no exceptions.

My dad talks to him, and tells him to just "ship it to keep the peace." What the fuck? NO! He needs to ship it because, "Krystal is not being unreasonable. you have somthing very dear to her, that she allowed you to use after begging for it for MONTHS, and since she did that as a favor to you, since it is her computer you ought to send it back the way she requests since you didn't send it back the way you were supposed to almost three weeks ago."

Finally the conversations are over. Our friendship absolved. And my computer returned [via UPS].

After it was all over, I had to sit back and figure out why I was so angry at this situation. I figured it out, while not on the same scale, I decided it was as if I had given someone permission to take my child out of town with the promise to bring my child back to me. Once out of town the trustee decides it's inconvient for him [for one reason or another] to bring my child back. THusly he also decides that it is perfectly acceptable to send my child back to me in a car with someone whom I have never met. That is not acceptable; I can tell you if ever in that situation, my child would have to be sent back to me on Continental where s/he would be assigned a personal flight attendant to ensure my child makes it back to me.

I know a comptuer is not a child, but my computer is as close as a motherless person gets. All of my writings, all of my personal databases, all of my everything that I ever want to remember. It should have told him something when I trusted him with the key to my apartment, but not the password to my User account on my computer of how much more I value my computer over anything else I own. To be careless with that trust is beneath a friend.

To not understand how his being inconvienced after not being responsible for getting my property back to me is immature.

He doesn't get it; in the real world... you fuck up... you fix it whether it inconviences you or not.

So your thoughts.... was a wrong? If so how?


Mr. 26 Things has unfortunately Resurfaced

As I was minding my business, and just as I thought that May 13th would be the last I'd ever heard from Mr. 26, I get a phone call while driving the company car around the city doing some little ish. The conversation as it transpires... roughly.

"Can I talk to Krystal?"
"Um this is she."
"Oh my god. I'm so glad you answered. I've been looking for your number for months. Man, I've been looking for your number forever"
"Um okay. It's good you found it then."
"Yeah so how have you been? I've been thinking about you for months"
"I'm well but may I ask with whom it is I am speaking?"
"Who is this?"
"Oh it's (insert his name that begins with a J here) from the parking lot at your old job."
akward pause as i am trying very hard not to sound like aw shit i thought i was rid of you
"Oh hi. Well , I'm on another call so I'll have to call you later"

"How much later?"
"Not sure. I'm on the other line."
"Oh okay."
"Bye" clicks back over to continue conversation with cousin

five minutes later

"krystal are you still on the phone?"

more to come....

arrrrruuuuuuughhhhhhhhhh. I promise, if I had not hand-picked my number ot be my birthday, I'D CHANGE IT!


What Texans Feel Bad for Thinking, so We're Not Saying It... but I Will

This entire post was typed with my eyes closed, so please excuse any typos.

I feel the need to preface this post by saying that I am not a mean and hateful person. I do not bask in the misfortunes of others; I have a deep saddness for those who have been displaced by hurricane Katrina.

There are two types of people:
  • Feelers-- these people tend to go with the gut instinct. They allow emotions to play a major role in their decision making. Often feelers' actions are motivated by instinctual urges.
  • and Thinkers-- these people tend to think and go with [hopefully well-thought] strategies. In instances of turmoil, they take a minute to say let's look at this long term. What decisions right now will workout best in the long run? No matter what the instance is they tend to put aside their emotions in order to make decisions that are as realistic as possible.
Having said all of that, I believe many Texans are truly concerned, as am I, about the effects of housing more than 230,000 Katrina victims/survivors. Many of us are concerned about how this will effect not only our quality of life, but also our economy. There are many mistakes being made out of a need to make quick decisions-- these quick decisions could very well prove harmful in the long run.

  1. The Chase Debit Card: Many of the victims, brought to Texas from the Superdome and Arena are now receiving debit cards with a $2000 prestored value on them. The concept behind this card was genuinely a great idea. However, the execution could have stood to be improved. As these cards are debit cards, people can get cold cash back from these cards. They can use them to purchase anything from anyone who accepts theAmerican dollar or the MaserCard logo. Personally, I believe these cards should ahve been tailored, somewhat like the foodstamp cards so that only certain items could be purchased with these cards. In some cases the governemnet is handing over $2000 debit cards to people who have never had $2000 in their position at one time. Putting that type of money into people's hands who may not be accustoed to that amount of money is potentially hazardous. I would just hate to see that money [taxpayer dollars] go to alcohol, or a certain desinger outfit that wasn't never in reach before.
  2. Housing: Beyond the debit card issue, housing is probably a very large concern among my statemates. I am nto callous; I am being very real right now. The vast majority of the people who were brought to Houston's Astrodome from the Superdome and the Arena lived below the poverty level when at their peak in New Orleans. Many of them were underprivilaged and undereducated in New Orleans. Many of them have always looked to Houston as "the better life," and before many of them had no means of getting here. Well, as a result of a major disaster we have opened our doors and brought them to us. Howe many of those people do you truly believe have any intention of leaving Houston when they are presented with the opportunity to go back home to NO or elsewhere. Many of these people had never even left New Orleans, so leaving a new place where they are begining to set roots is not too plausible. The problem then becomes, that Houston would then need to be able to house, on a more permanent basis those who choose to stay. We are a generous people down here in Texas [our name in itself means friend] so we are not going to force people to leave. However all of these additional people would be murderous on our economy. We are essentially taking one city and putting it into an entirely difernet city. In houston we have recently been putting up very nice townhomes and the property value here has increased. However, I have talked to many native Houstonians, who previously were making attempts to move back to Houston. Many of them no longer wanted to come because of all of the new tenants we will inevidently have.
    "If I wanted to live in Louisiana, I would have gone to school there," one friend said. It's a legitimate issue. Are we going to have to start buildign more section 8 houses to house those who were already subpoverty level in N.O? By no stretch of the imagination are there an additional 100,000 jobs here in Houston, let alone 200,000. Of the jobs in Houston, many of them require a higher level of education, so the victims are not taking the qualified jobs. However, with the sudden influx of people, those who may have been inclined to move here may decide against it because of our new tenants.
  3. Lifestyle: New Orleans people, their culture is vastly different from those in the rest of the country. That cannot be disputed. The loitering on Bourbon streeet, and the openly accepted purchasing of alcohol by minors are evident unto themselves that life out there was different. The Astrodome recently invoked an 11 P.M. curfew for the victims in the Dome. Many were upset. I have a question. What could one be doing, outside of the dome, after 11 p.m., without any money. We do not loiter in Texas.
  4. Crime: We are all concerned about it. On day two of project "house the victims" a woman or more was raped. An influx of car breaks in have occured in the Medical Center [Astrodome area] since we've opened our doors. I am not calling all victims or New Orleanians criminals. I am nto doing that. I am however, asking if we are really ready to see the type of influx in crime that can come with a distraught hoard of an additional 230,000 people.
  5. Safety. I was reading an article that brought up a great point. Displaced Katrina kids are about to stat going to school with the kids already here in Texas. As these vitims/survivors have been exposed to everything from the current outbreak of TB in the Dome and the Ecoli in the waters in NO, without any form of vaccination records, many of our kids are being put at risk.
I think what I am basically trying to say, is that we have to make sure that in the midst of our helping, we don't forget to take care of home too.

I was in the Galleria today, and saw this dude with his wristband on carrying two Saks Fifth Avenue bags out. I saw a long line of evacuees at the ATM machine inside of Target. And oh so many were in the beauty shops and nails shops. A realist's approach says what happens when they've blown the $2000 from that debit card on their hair, nails, and the stuff from Saks, and the Louis Vitton bag one when it behind me to buy? Will they stand at the feet of the government and ask for more?


Something Cool -- What I Have Done and What I Have Yet To Do

Insomnia Fun

Stolen from Karaoke Diva and legalchick

Rules: Copy, paste, and bold the ones that you’ve done.

01. Buy everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swim with wild dolphins
03. Climb a mountain
04. Take a Ferrari for a test drive
05. See the Pyramids at night
06. Hold a tarantula
07. Take a candlelit bath with someone --sans candles one of the greatest days of my early 20s until...
08. Say ‘I love you’ and mean it
09. Hug a tree
10. Do a striptease
11. Do a bungee or parachute jump
12. Visit Paris
13. Watch a lightning storm at sea
14. Clean behind the fridge
15. Stay up all night long, and watch the sun rise.
16. Ask a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask.
17. See the Northern Lights
18. Go to a huge sports game
19. Create your own masterpiece
20. Grow and eat your own vegetables.
21. Touch an iceberg
22. Had an office relationship -- does having an office stalker count?
23. Sleep under the stars
24. Compromise
25. Change a baby’s diaper
26. Take a trip in a hot air balloon
27. Watch a meteor shower
28. Get drunk on champagne
29. Take a luxury holiday
30. Give more than you can afford to charity
31. Look up at the night sky through a telescope
32. Have an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment
33. Have a food fight
34. Bet on a winning horse
35. Take a sick day when you’re not ill
36. Get a pet
37. Ask a stranger out
38. Have a snowball fight
39. Photocopy your bottom on the office photocopier
40. Scream as loudly as you possibly can
41. Hold a lamb
42. Enact a favorite fantasy
43. Take a midnight skinny dip
44. Hear the words ‘I love you’
45. Fly on Concorde
46. Take an ice cold bath
47. Have a meaningful conversation with a beggar.
48. See a total eclipse
49. Ride a roller coaster
50. Hit a home run
51. Fit three weeks miraculously into three days
52. Dance like a fool and not care who’s looking
53. Adopt an accent for an entire day
54. Visit the birthplace of your ancestors.
55. Gave a grand performance with costumes and everything
56. Made up a screenname to stalk someone.--- sadly yes.
57. Gone shopping for no reason.
58. Actually feel happy about your life, even for just a moment.
59. Just be held
60. Have an adventure where nothing goes as planned
61. Kissed someone you truly wanted to kiss -- where is the [and regretted it afterwards?]
62. Went clubbing and thought to yourself “I could out-dance them if I wanted to”
63. Called your relatives by their relationship
64. Have two hard drives for your computerI have three computers all to myself does that count?
65. Cuddled
66. Visited all 50 states
67. Loved your job
68. Taken care of someone who was shitfaced and tripping, too…ahhh college
69. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
70.. Have amazing friend(s)
71. Danced with a stranger in a foreign country
72. Swim during a formal
73. Stolen a sign
74. Backpacked in Europe
75. Taken a road-trip
76. Rock climbing
77. Nose piercing
78. Midnight walk on the beach
79. Sky diving
80. Visit Ireland
81. Saw what you wanted and did all it took to seize it. -and failed
82. Fell in love then fell harder and faster from heartbreak.
83. In a restaurant, sat at a stranger’s table and had lunch/dinner with them
84. Visit and/or tour Japan.
85. Benchpress your own weight.
86. Stolen from your parents
87. Alphabetized your records- DVDs count?-- and built a DVD database complete with author, actors, director, and academy award nominations and wins
89. Pretended to be a superhero
90. Sang karaoke
91. Made someone cry for no good reason.
92. Lounged around in bed all day.
93. Posed nude in front of a room full of strangers.
94. Dressed sexy for no reason.
95. Got it on to “Let’s Get It On” by Marvin Gaye
96. Kissed in the rain
97. Played in the mud
98. Played in the rain
99. Gone to a drive-in theater
100. Done something you should regret, but don’t regret it…
101. Visited the Great Wall of China
102. Fell in love with a job that has nothing to do with the degree you’re pursuing – my life
103. Discovered that someone who’s not supposed to have known about your blog has discovered your blog – well he knew about it; i just figured he'd never read it
104. Dropped Windows in favor of something better – Go Mac!
105. Started a business.
106. Fallen in love and not had your heart broken
107. Toured ancient sites around the Mediterranean
108. Taken karate.
109. Swordfought for the honor of a woman.
110. Played D&D for more than 6 hours straight.
111. Gotten married
112. Been in a movie.
113. LARPed
114. Loved someone you shouldn’t have.
115. Kissed someone so passionately it made them dizzy.
116. Gotten divorced
117. Had sex at the office
118. Surprised yourself with a talent you didn’t know you had
119. Been to Macchu Picchu
120. Gone without food for 5 days
121. Never left the continental United States.
122. Made cookies from scratch.
123. Won first prize in a costume contest
124. Ridden a gondola in Venice.
125. Gotten a tattoo – Seven of them to be exact
126. Got another tattoo the next day because you didn’t feel balanced
127. Find that the texture of some materials can turn you on
128. Rafted the Snake River.
129. Blazed it up at Burning Man
130. Gotten flowers for no reason.
131. Masturbated in a public place.-- holy cow would anyone admit to this?
132. Gotten so drunk you don’t remember anything.
133. Been addicted to some form of illegal drug.
134. Traveled the world.
135. Performed onstage with a famous symphony orchestra
136. Been to Las Vegas
137. Met Madonna
138. Recorded music
139. Eaten Shark
140. Had a one night stand
141. Gone to Thailand
142. Courage to speak my mind
143. Saw Robert Smith and Siouxsie live
144. Bought a house
145. Earned my degree
146. Broke my neck
147. Been in a combat zone
148. Buried my father
149. Earned a living through my creativity
150. Visit the remaining continents on my list
151. Had my pubic hair waxed off
152. Been on a cruise ship
153. Speak more than one language fluently
154. Worn see-through clothes in public
155. Bounced a check -unfortunately
156. Performed in Rocky Horror
157. Moved over 1000 miles by yourself
158. Been to art school
159. Read - and understood - your credit report
160. Raised children.
161. Recently bought and played with a favorite childhood toy
162. Followed your favorite band/singer on tour
163. Created and named your own constellation of stars
164. Bucked stigma or trends to follow your heart
165. Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign country
166. Found out something significant that your ancestors did.
167. Called or written your Congressman
168. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over
169. …more than once?
170. Run the Golden Gate Bridge
171. Sang loudly in the car, and didn’t stop when you know someone is looking
171. Had an abortion/miscarriage -- these should hardly be listed together -- one is a choice the other is a sad unfortunate ordeal
172. Had plastic surgery
173. Survived an accident that you shouldn’t have survived.
174. Wrote articles for a semi large publication
175. Lost over 100 pounds
176. Held someone while they were having a flashback
177. Flown an airplane
178. Petted a stingray
179. Broken someone’s heart.
180. Helped an animal give birth
181. Been fired or laid off from a job you loved.
182. Won money on a T.V. game show.
183. Broken a bone.
184. Killed a human being.
185. Had a threesome (or moresome.)
186. Ridden a motorcycle
187. Driven any land vehicle at a speed of greater than 100mph.
188. Had a body part of yours below the neck pierced.
189. Fired a rifle, shotgun, or pistol.
190. Eaten mushrooms that were gathered in the wild.
191. Ridden a horse.
192. Had major surgery.
193. Had sex on a moving train.
194. Had a snake as a pet.
195. Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon.
196. Joined the army
197. Gotten Food Stamps
198. Been to a tapas bar
199. Read “War and Peace”
200. Bought a childhood favorite book on eBay
201. Worn a strap-on.
202. Been in an abusive relationship
203. Had fertility problems
204. Crewed a sailing ship.
205. Hunted Bookfinder for a favorite book.
206. Lived on another continent
207. Run for public office
208. Been so depressed that I couldn’t eat.
209. Visited Antarctica
210. Watched the entire series of “I, Claudius” in one sitting
211. Watched the entire series of “Twin Peaks” in one sitting.
212. Watch my child being born
213. Travelled more than 3000 miles for a job interview.
214. Hit on someone you later discover is a close relation.
215. Won more in a year gambling than earning.
216: Was quoted in the newspaper
217. Had a waterbed
218. Ate sushi
219. Killed an animal in order to eat it
220. Canned
221. Had sex naked in the snow at night under the stars
222. Had a food orgasm.
223. Held a live creature just after it’s birth
224. Sung in an opera or musical
225. Used food for a purpose other than eating.
226. Been to a metal concert
227. Used Psychedelic drugs [lsd, shrooms etc] for the purpose of art and the creative process
228. Learned to play the piano
229. Had singing lessons
230. Put your hand in an entire sink full of clorox bleach.
230. Been on a movie set when they were filming and met some actors/actresses
231. Been bit by a mountain lion
232. Ran into a tree with some sort of moving machine
233. Lost a friend to suicide
234. Carved something out of wood.
235. Never been pulled over
236. Missed a flight
237. Been snorkeling
238. Been in 6 states or more within 12 hours
239. Won a stuffed animal
240. Had a dream or dreams that came true
241. Done CPR more than 6 times in 6 hours.
242. Cried hysterically when you were feeling dandy and drunk.
243. Kicked a member of the opposite sex in their crotch.
244. Save someones life who you didnt want to.
245. Laugh in the face of death.
246. Took the Eurostar from Paris to London (or vice versa)
247. Been in two countries at the same time, straddling the border line
248. Met Christian Slater
249. Get stuck in the snow more than twice
250. Hit a deer on the road


Never Look Back. Even if it Means well...

There were "Untitled", "26 Things I Hated About Him", and the "The New Guy".
With whom the hell else will the gods find to curse me?!?!
Just leave me alone -- I'm happy that way!

So a long time ago I posted "The New Guy." That was probably around February something or other. A friend had introduced me to this guy, who I thought was surprisingly everything that I thought was pretty great. Naturally, this made me quite skeptical of him, because I know that there is always a catch.

Well, that era has ended; I thought it had ended months ago when I blocked him from my buddy list once he told me that he'd gotten married. Apparently, he married in April. He was so happy and they even got pregnant on the honeymoon.

Thanks to Google, and the fact that I still have him listed in my email contacts like, GoogleTalk he was able to contact me, out of the blue, just as I had begun to forget he'd existed. I don't know what I was thinking, carrying on a conversation with him, as if it were okay to do so. I spoke of my determination to stay single, and he apologized as if he felt he had anything to do with my decision again relationships and commitment. He didn't; he, as well as Mr. Untitled, were merely reinforcement for what I have known for a very long time.

We ended up talking on the phone; I thought I could handle it since I'm inamoured with the French guy now-- sidebar there is a new French guy, with whom I am allowed to be inamored because I cannot become attached because he is an Atlantic ocean away. But I tell you, a voice can bring back all kinds of emotions that you've thought have passed because of the length of time elapsed.

Trying to make small talk, I asked when the baby was due. He said a couple of weeks from now. STOP!!!!!!! WAIT!!!!!! This is September! Unless he has fortified supergestating sperm, that kid would have been conceived in January or February. That changes the mix quite a bit. While I thought this when he told me the date, I said nothing. I ended the conversation with the fact that my chicken salade was more important that continuing our conversation, and he ended it with "we should keep in touch." WRONG! No we shouldn't. He is a married man. Nuff said. I do wish he and his wife all the happiness in the world. But keeping in touch is an unnecessary evil.


A Speechless 12 Days... from Houston

I know it has been a while, and Areyl has charged me with forgetting how to blog, so here I am. As I am sure all of you, as I have, been engulfed by Katrina images on the news, internet, television, radio, and at church.

Sometimes, I wonder if the rest of the world, outside of the Gulf Coast is as surrounded by the daily reminders that life in a city that was once so livly is all but destroyed.

In attempts to not sound selfish, I am wondering what will happen with the economy of the state of Texas if all of these evacuees decide to make Texas their new home. An immediate increase of nearly 230,000 people would stand to greatly damage our economy. I understand that people are going to try to make a new life, which may not include returning to Louisiana, but we have got to figure out a way to disperse families accross the states as to not cause a devistation or economical proportions.

There are so many more things I want to say, but as has been the case for the past 12 days, I'm somewhat speechless.

All I really have to say is I truely hope they do not bring Mardi Gras and/or The Bayou Classics to Texas.